If you had asked me before if I loved myself, I’d defiantly say No. I liked myself, But I know deep down there was some internal work that I should practice.
So many people go about their day thinking that they are all good but I believe that everyone needs to practice self love and gratitude everyday.
When I lied in my bed in a severe anxiety tormenting myself with thoughts like “I’m not good enough”, “I don’t deserve it” I realised that I was far from truly loving myself.
But how can someone love me if I don’t love myself, I can just imagine how that relationship will turn out 😬
So what is “self-love”? It took me a few months to fully understand it and practice it. I thought it was silly and that its not important but oh my was I wrong.
Self-love is so powerful that, if you really feel it, you will change your life in so many ways.
Many people think they love themselves, but what they feel is rather the liking of self.
When you manage to lose a few kilos, when you do your hair and make up and look great - you like yourself.
When you achieve something big – you like yourself.
When you help another person – you like yourself.
But what when the opposite happens?
If you put on a few kilos, would you still look in the mirror with the love and appreciation? Do you like yourself even when your hair is messy and you got a few pimples on your face?
Or what when you acted really mean to somebody – do you still like yourself then?
What we often take for self-love is a conditional liking of the person we are.
Instead of pure love, we judge ourselves. If you we do something right, we reward ourselves with love. But when we do something bad, we punish ourselves by taking that love away. We become the harshest punisher in our lives.
True love in an unconditional feeling of love, appreciation and acceptance for yourself. No matter what you do, you always love yourself with the same strength.
What do you do when you love someone? 🤷🏻♀️
Think of your parents, siblings, a lover or a best friend. Do you get them gifts? Do you take them out on a date? Do you pay for them? Do you spend quality time together?
Love is a feeling, and love is a verb. Love is just as much about feeling as it is about doing!
So now is the time to do something loving for yourself.
Think of all the things you enjoy, that bring you pleasure. And simply do them with yourself.
If you’ve never tried it before the idea of doing something alone might scare you a bit – I know that’s how I felt.
I suggest take yourself on a date once a week.
Dinner alone? I felt like the biggest loser sitting at the table all by myself!
But you know what – if you do, it’s a clear sign you don’t yet love yourself. Because once you do, you’ll start enjoying spending time yourself.
It’s to befriend yourself and feel completely happy and whole even when there is nobody else next to you.
We need to stop depriving ourselves from things that we like and that make us happy.
From now on, give yourself a permission to do things you enjoy. You don’t always need to do things that make sense or that build your career.
Spending time doing things just because you like them should be just as important.
Love Rebecca 💕